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Just Ask Glynis! My new book Love by the Numbers will be released on 11/11/09. I thought it would be fitting to share some of my favorite Q&A’s regarding love relationships. Enjoy!

Hi Glynis,

I was born on 7-2-1955. I was married for 22 years and my wife said our relationship just got old and she should have gotten out a long time ago. I had just driven my youngest daughter up to College, came home and found this out.

I have really been struggling with this as she wants nothing to do with me; it was like as soon as the kids were out of the house, so was she. Her name is Debbie and her birthday is 11-10-1956. I am hoping to meet up with someone this year, but I am really taking it very slow as I am working hard and do not like the bar scene. Anyway, that is my story.

Have a Great Day Marty

Marty 7-2-1955

Debbie 11-10-1956

Hi Marty, I'm sorry to hear your story, especially since, when I look at your Personal Numerology Chart Numbers, I see that the two of you are actually very compatible. You are a 2 Life Path, born on a 2 day, with a 9 Attitude, and she is a 6 Life Path, born on a 1 day, with a 3 Attitude. Those 6s are all about family. The 6 Life Path would mean that being a good mother is everything to her. You have a 2, which means you are very sensitive and have a big heart. The conflict that I see is that she is in a 5 Personal Year , which means she feels her life is totally out of control; she is at her "wit's end" and she wants out. She is just running away, and I have never seen anyone who does something like that in a 5 Personal Year not regret it later. So, don’t be surprised if next year, she just opens her eyes and says "Whoa! What was that about?"

It is also possible that throughout this relationship she did not communicate her feelings to you and, just kept things inside. A 6 Life Path can appear to be fine, and then one day they are through, and their partner is shocked! I have actually written about this tendency in my new book Love By The Numbers.

You are born on a 2 day with a 2 Life Path and you are in a 2 Personal Year, so I know that this has hit you particularly hard and has deeply wounded you emotionally. But before you do anything about starting a new relationship, I really want you to pause first, Marty, and take a year off to recover. Don't fall into a rebound relationship. You don't want to do that. After all, it was your wife who suddenly left you-- you weren't ready to leave. Next year will be much lighter for you. You will be in a cycle of 3, which is a Number that promotes laughter, and it will be more playful. When you are really ready, your numbers tell me you are a straightforward person, and I'm sure since 2 is the “love Number”, a healthy relationship will come back into your life. Since, you don't like the bar scene, I do suggest that you then go on an internet dating site and submit a profile.

Those are my thoughts, Marty, and I do hope you pick up my book, Love By The Numbers, so that you can understand whomever you might consider for a relationship.

My husband Gabriel’s birth date is 5/4/1964, and I am Deborah , born 6/2/1963, and we were married on 7/17/2007. We started out great, went thru some rocky periods, and now all is good again. He has been incarcerated for two years and is due for release on 6/11/2009. (He did not kill anyone, he was detained by immigration)

We both really want our marriage to work; are we a good match? I hope so as I am moving to Mexico upon his release, until he is allowed to re-enter the US legally.

Deborah 6-2-1963

Gabriel 5-4-1964

Hi Deborah,

My first thought when I saw your letter was, “ isn’t it a bit dangerous to want to be with a guy who has been incarcerated?" I'm glad you made it clear that Gabriel's offence was about immigration; of course, I completely understand your feelings, and I am sorry that he is going through this. On terms of whether or not you have a good relationship, and are good together, the answer is “Yes.” He is a 2 Life Path born on a 4 Day, with a 9 Attitude, and you are a 9 Life Path, born on a 2 day, with an 8 Attitude. The days you were born on are a Natural Match, and your Life Path Numbers are Compatible. There is one Challenge in Your Attitude Numbers, but that is not too bad. Your Charts are strong as far as a couple goes.

I am glad to hear you are willing to move to Mexico until he is able to enter the US legally again. He is a 2 Life Path, which is a very sensitive Vibration, and I am sure that, when he gets out, he will have some issues that he will need to work through. I suggest you just be a good listener, and let him talk about his experience during these last two years in jail. I know that some of it will be painful for both of you, but once you two can get through that, I think your love will only become stronger.

So, again, to answer your question "Is it worth it?" The answer is an emphatic “Yes!”

Hi Glynis,

I have been involved with a man off and on for eight years. I truly enjoy his company. He is intellectually stimulating, and makes me laugh. However, when we are not interacting, I just don't know about things. His birthday is 5/22/1978. For a long time I was so certain he was the one, but he seems completely unable to open up and share his thoughts and emotions with me or commit to anything other than casual dating. Should I move on, or is it worth it to stay and work on the relationship?

Thank you so much for your time. Take care, Nicole

Hi Nicole,

You’ve asked quite a few questions in your original letter, but I decided to consolidate them into one relationship question. To protect your privacy, I am only using your first names. Frankly, I would not encourage you to try to make this a relationship for the long run. Aaron is not trying to withhold who he really is to you; this is just his nature. He is a 7 Life Path, and 7s very much need their privacy. They don't want to feel controlled by anyone. They can only give so much before they think ,"I need to be alone; I need to be in my mind and by myself."

Because you are a 2 Life Path, and all about sharing and intimacy, you will misinterpret that trait. It feels like rejection to you, and that is not going to go away. It is not as though over time, he will become more demonstrative in his communicating. He was born on a 4 day, and you were born on a 5 day. Again, you have a Challenge in these Vibrations. Your 5 is the one that does enjoy the freedom and excitement; His 4 can get very practical, and has a tendency to downplay anything that is not down to earth. He may not want to tell you what he is thinking, and yet you can see in his eyes that something is up. I am not in any way saying that this is not a good guy, I am sure he is. It is just that your Numbers do not bring out the best in each other. Aaron's Attitude Number is a 9, and your Attitude Number is 3. That is why you have fun together, and say, "Gee, I enjoy laughing with him." You can have enjoyable times together, but then at other times you just feel like "Is he the one for me or not?" I encourage you to continue to open yourself up to new relationships. The best Numbers for someone with your Life Path are, "3, 6, 9 and 2 are the Numbers that approve of you.”

Nicole, My book Love By The Numbers was designed for ease of use. People who read the book will gain valuable understanding of the people in their lives. It is smart to learn Numerology, so that you can make informed choices in your career and in your love life. It will help you find the partner for the love you so deserve!

Dear Glynis, My fiancé Martin 6/13/1957 can't seem to grow up. At work he is the clever beaver, but at home he is just brain dead. In front of his family he has to be the clever beaver again, but with me, he just wants to play dumb. I am 11/30/1968, there is n 11 years age gap and I feel I am the older wise man, and he is a 5 year old child. Since he is older than 1, I expect him to be more caring and be a man, really. We had a burglar once, and yet he still leaves the door open, I have to check at night to see if everything is locked. He also needs to be toilet trained as he forgets to flush, so I have started writing BIG SIGNS AT HOME "Bolt Me" for the Door, "Flush Me," he even forgets to zip his fly or do the seatbelt. He just needs a constant reminder. He is now trying to change as his father is about to cross over. He wants me to marry him, but keeps on doing childish things. Is it related to his childhood when his father was so strict and he always told him what to do? He also calls me mother, and it is okay when it’s a slip of the tongue, but not OKAY when his mother is actually in front of us. I started writing a book about his behavior and answers in why he does it, but something just doesn't add up.

Please help,

Christine

Hi Christine, As a Numerologist, I definitely do not approve of this relationship. Please don't go for it. The fact is that Martin has a double 4, and 4's can really shut down. It's great that he can be clever with other people, but 4's often just want to relax and kick back at home, as is the case here, and you two are bound to clash. You were born on a 3 day, and communication is extremely important to you. You like to engage with your partner-- one of the pitfalls for a 3 is that in their love of playing counselor, they will attract a partner who becomes their patient, as you have begun to do here.

On the plus side, your Life Path Numbers are a Natural Match, yours is a 2 to his 4, but this relationship is still a big NO to me. Why would you ever marry someone who already acts like a child when he is with you? I am urging you not to make the mistake of marrying him. More than that, I am asking you to make sure that the next man you give your love to is a true man.

Now there is a book out there that can help you do just that. In fact this book can help you bring out better qualities in Martin, should you choose to stay with him. It's called Getting to I Do by Dr. Pat Allen. Getting to I Do helps us understand that we are all male and female inside ourselves; we all have a combination of yin and the yang. It is a book that teaches you to stay feminine, so that your man can stay masculine. Martin has become a little boy, and you have become his mother, right down to the fact that he calls you "mother." The tools this book will give you will improve your relationship, or help you find one that is much healthier, and better for your future.

Again, you certainly do not have my blessing to marry this guy as he is right now. There is a lot of work that has to be done. If you can get him to grow up right before your very eyes that would be great! But if not, there is a wonderful man out there for you Christine. Your chart tells me you are a very good person, and I am rooting for you!

Glynis McCants has been studying Numerology for 21 years. She uses the Pythagoras Number system, which is over 2,500 years old. After evaluating more than 15,000 Numerology Charts, Glynis wrote the best-selling book Glynis Has Your Number. She is also the creator of The Numerology Kit, The Individual Reading Chart, and the" Are We Soul-mates?" Program. You may have seen her on Beyond with James Van Praagh, The Caroline Rhea Show, The Other Half, The Leeza Show, The View and Entertainment Tonight. She's been featured in L.A. Confidential Magazine, Time Magazine, In Touch, Star Magazine, US Weekly and People Magazine. Glynis was a recurring guest on The Tony Danza Show for the past two years, and is currently heard weekly on The Leeza At Night radio show. She was also voted Favorite Guest on PBR Radio. Before the Presidential Elections in October, 2008, Glynis McCants was on The View and said that Barack Obama and Joe Biden would win. Go to www.numberslady.com