Since this month has Mother’s day in it, I thought it would be appropriate to answer questions from various Mother’s out there who have written me. Enjoy…

QUESTION: I was born April 2, 1956 which makes me a life path number 9. I think I am a loyal friend and I am a team player at work. Yet, I have gone through periods of not speaking to good friends and my failure to move ahead on my job is depressing. My husband, Ron, born Sept. 18, 1943 and I have been married for 20yrs. We have a son, Justin, born Sept 12, 1987. Most of the time, I feel like a failure in marriage and a failure in motherhood. Will I ever stop being a bridesmaid and never a bride in my personal and professional life? Thalia ANSWER: HI Thalia, When I read your letter, a couple of thoughts went through my mind. You are a 9 life Path , and are clearly living on the negative side of the vibration. The 9 is the old soul, and can be very self critical. It can get so bad that they don't really enjoy their life. Judging by your letter, this is certainly the case with you. I can't help but wonder what kind of parents raised you because when 9s are neglected as children, they will over compensate by trying to make everyone else's life perfect. Next thing you know, the 9 is in last place in their own life. You are also born on a 2 day, and the 2s can give too much, and one day realize that they are getting nothing in return. You have a 6 attitude, and I have found a lot of women who have the 6 in their birth numbers become hyper-critical on how to raise their children. In fact, their mission becomes "I want to do it better than my parents did," yet they feel they always come up short. You need to remember that you are only human. The way to change the way you think is to reprogram through the power of affirmations. I offer my Healing by the Numbers CD that definitely helps to heal your mind. You may want to pick it up. Your husband is an 8 Life Path which is considered a Challenge to your 9 Life Path. So I wonder, how is your relationship? How well do you two communicate? And when you say "Will I ever stop being a bridesmaid, and never a bride in my personal and professional life?," this question tells me it is time for you to start communicating how you really feel to the people in your life. It is also time for you to reprogram your way of thinking. One exercise that I love which comes from Louise L. Hays' book You Can Heal Your Life is a mirror exercise. You look into your eyes in the mirror and say: "I love and approve of myself; I love and approve of myself." At first your eyes will look back at you very critically, but just ignore it and keep going. You need to repeat this affirmation for no less than 15 minutes a day.  As you affirm it over and over, you will find a gentleness coming into your eyes that is much more accepting of you. I have found that by doing this exercise, you will start to attract people that will treat you better. You will also start to feel better and less critical of yourself. Everything that is going on with you is in your mind, and you have the power to change the way your mind thinks. By changing the way you think, you can have a whole new world which is certainly what I think you deserve! Here's to new beginnings! 

Question:

Hi Glynis,   I am curious to find out more about what toxic numbers mean. My birthday is 11/7/1959 and my ex-husband is 2/17/1959. Can you tell me about this combination? The relationship seems "toxic" to me, but he is the father of my two youngest children. We are trying to live together for the sake of the kids. Thank you so much for your help.

Sincerely, Natasha

Answer:

Hi Natasha,

When I look at your personal Numerology, it is very clear to me that this relationship has always been a difficult one. You were born a 6 Life Path, which is the mother number. Your ex-husband is a 7 Life Path, which is a number that tends to be a loner, and does not always know how to communicate what they really want. You are correct; you are Toxic to one another. He has a 1 Attitude, which could make him defensive with you, and he may also think that you are trying to control him when giving advice. This defensiveness is further backed up by his 8 Birth-day number. For you, it is like having another child in the house.

I would guess you are trying to live with him because you have a 9 Attitude, which means you have old scars from your original family and don't want to repeat anything you feel your parents did wrong. You are trying to do what you consider the noblest thing, which is to stay together for the sake of the children. You were born on a 7 Birth-Day. When I see both a 7 and 6 in a person's chart, it recalls the old saying, "he's at 6s and 7s." It means "confused and not sure" when it comes to making the big decisions in life.

If you ask me if it best that you stay together "for the sake of the children," I would say," Not if you can't find a way to coexist peacefully." If your ex husband is negative towards you and does not really contribute to the home, then you are doing each other and the children a disservice by staying together.

I do have one possible solution that comes from the fact that you both have the number 7 in your charts. If you could find a spiritual base that you both could share, that would make your lives much better. When a 7 is not spiritual, they can become very cynical, and I would not wish that on either one of you.

Natasha, Keep up the good work. I can tell by your question how much being a loving mother means to you.

Question:   My D.O.B. is 7/27/1954 My daughter; 12/15/1970   When my daughter gets mad at me, she will not talk to me for weeks. This has been going on forever, and recently she was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder. Well once again, she got mad with me, and her son who is 15 years old, told me when I call, it makes her mad, and for me to leave her alone.He said she would call me soon, and it has been 2 months now.

I have not called since then. I sent 3 emails and then quit. What is happening here? Please help. Thanks for your time. It truly breaks my heart, but I am leaving them alone! Janet   Answer:

Hi Janet,   When I look at your numbers, the first thing that stands out to me is that you are both 8 Life Paths. Although 8s are considered a Natural Match to each other, they can often feel toxic. I think it's just like when you trace an 8, it goes around and around, and can make you feel a little crazy (not to mention dizzy:) ). Whatever that thing is between you and your daughter, it can be fine, and then all of a sudden it can explode, without warning. The relationship becomes very negative.   My suggestion to you is this: You need to let her vent and say whatever she needs to, and do not respond to it. I get the feeling that when you tell her what you think or feel, she takes it as criticism. She thinks you are being hard on her, or trying to control her, and that is why she lashes out.    I'm guessing that you love your grandson, and want to spend time with him as well, so if you still have not heard from her, I would write her a love letter. Tell her you will always be her mother, and that you adore her, and will always be there for her. Tell her you are sorry that you have had difficulty in communicating in the past, but that you look forward to talking to her again.    It would be smart to send that kind of letter. When you are back in her life, the next time she goes off or gets upset, just stay quiet, and do not join her. It is common for an 8 to be very direct and say what they feel and you both have this problem, so that can lead to trouble.

I also suggest that you pray, Janet. You have a 7 attitude, and that is considered God's energy, so you should start doing a lot more prayer for this relationship. And most importantly, since you were born on a 9 day, do not take this all so personally. In her rejection of you, she is battling herself, she is in her own pain, and these are her lessons to learn.

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Glynis McCants has been studying Numerology for 21 years. She uses the Pythagoras Number system, which is over 2,500 years old. After evaluating more than 15,000 Numerology Charts, Glynis wrote the best-selling book Glynis Has Your Number. She is also the creator of The Numerology Kit, The Individual Reading Chart, and the" Are We Soul-mates?" Program. You may have seen her on Beyond with James Van Praagh, The Caroline Rhea Show, The Other Half, The Leeza Show, The View and Entertainment Tonight. She's been featured in L.A. Confidential Magazine, Time Magazine, In Touch, Star Magazine, US Weekly and People Magazine. Glynis was a recurring guest on The Tony Danza Show for the past two years, and is currently heard weekly on The Leeza At Night radio show. She was also voted Favorite Guest on PBR Radio. Before the Presidential Elections in October, 2008, Glynis McCants was on The View and said that Barack Obama and Joe Biden would win.